Focus on emotion

What you feel is important. Your feelings are links to both your unconscious inner world and your experience of others. Your emotions are guides if you listen to them. They tell you what is bothering you.

Finding language for what you feel also helps you cope with seemingly contradictory feelings. Object Relations analysis is very different from cognitive behavioral therapy that focuses on behaviors. “Knowing” what is wrong with your behavior does not mean you will be able to change it. Sometimes knowing what is wrong can make you feel like more of a failure. Intellectual understanding does not change anything. If it did, you would not need to consult a psychoanalyst. Analysis provides emotional understanding and insight that change your experience of yourself and the thoughts and feelings you have about who you are.

Object Relations Psychoanalysis focuses on the emotional experience you have with your analyst and gives you an emotional experience in the present that changes you.